Monday, November 16, 2009

College or older.... I need advice....?

I met this guy through a friend (we're all in college).... the thing is, he's a freshman and I'm 2 years older than him! I don't know how I fell for him, but it's something about his background, sense of humor, and brown eyes.... how sappy. Anyway, we ended up hanging out a few times, and every time we do, we end up shagging. He's a nice guy, but I don't think he knows I want something more than shag-buddydom. He seems into me, but who knows, it might all just be about sex. I know he had 2 really serious girlfriends before me, so... he's not a wh0re, but then again, who knows. there are 3 other girls who are always flirting with him on facebook (online community for college students). I'm jealous but I don't want to tell this guy directly (my feelings), because it might just make it awkward between us (especially since we're in the same organization and I wouldn't mind being good friends with him- he's great).... HOW do I let him know that I want something more, by HINTS?

College or older.... I need advice....?
if you've been "shaggin" then it won't be hard to tell him that you want to be more than friends, if he backs off then you know he is no good for you. Since you are intimate with him he should be able to give you a straight answer if he likes you or only considers it nothing more than just a good time...
Reply:You need to look his eyes constantly for a long time becas direct long time eye contacts make magics.





You need to turn and look at him when he is not looking at you and make him turn towards you. But when he turns to you then you need to turn to the class back.





These are the hints that lets a guy knws that a girl loves him.
Reply:Date him more and more often. then just ask him if he is dating anyone else. see how he reacts.
Reply:Hints are b.s. Just flat out tell him. the age difference is inconsequential - two adults, two years apart in age? that's nothing.
Reply:A guy not mentioning his affection means he doesn't love you though you gone thru shagging. Clearly understood that he's just enjoying free sex and no commitments involves. Whose the loser... definitely you and lucky he was.





You know love will freely and unknowingly comes out of the mouth to express the loving words to a girl accompanied with loving action. If he truly love you he should have told you already ever since before.





Giving him hints that you want more will only encourage him to take advantage of your weakness. Maybe the love that he will offer is not the real one so as not to lose his enjoyment of your body.





Because the love is deceptive sooner or later he will lost interest of your body then what will happen to you?
Reply:"Hints" is TV sitcom stuff. Be a serious and straightforward person and share your feelings...that way you find out immediately where you stand. If it's awkward, it's awkward...better than tippy toeing around.
Reply:Have a DTR (Define the Relationship) Talk. Let him know that you want something more, but if doesn't it's totally cool and you can still be friends. Don't make him feel pressured, just let him know he either needs to get committed or not. Either way is fine.
Reply:Take him home for thanksgiving and see if he goes...have that talk when it comes...about being together and what is this and where is it going. Let him know you're digging him more than an f-buddy. He probably is sooo into you to, but if you don't take that chance, you won't know...





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You just ride it out and see if it gets more serious
Reply:I think guys in general aren't good with hints. I know it's tough to just come out and say it but, IMO, it's better to be clear and direct with what you want. When guys want something they say it. Girls/women like to hint at it.





The only caveat is that he might not want "something more", especially if he thinks that you don't want it. Not all guys are about sex only, but if he can get sex without the relationship then, what's the incentive for him to change the arrangement?





In a way, you are in a relationship already--but just a sexual one. So if you want the emotional side to it too, then build to it. Go out with this guy on a date or something. Make him work for sex at least.


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